Responding to blog about a woman fixated on a date

I was reading a dating adviser's blog that addressed a poor woman's plight over a guy who hadn't called her in two weeks since their date. This was my comment:

The truth is, every guy has his reason for what he does or doesn’t do. That’s what makes us HUMAN. We are not robots. We do not come with programming. (Though we can become programmed. Ouch. Did i go there?)

For EVERY single woman out there, my advice is be independent. The fact that a woman can’t stop thinking about a guy she barely knows makes it a crush. When we’re independent, the fact that he hasn’t called again flicks the switch that tells us to let it go! But when we’re clingy, we have issues to fix, and it’s not wise to wait for someone else to fix them.

Women, go after your personal dreams. If your dream is to get married, then consider an arranged one, because men are generally not attracted to women who only care about getting married.

Take care of yourself first. Heal yourself. Put your energy into something productive. Help others. Volunteer. Fill your time with activities that can help the world, or do something you love doing and share it with people. Then you will know independence. Then you will attract a guy who’s right for you.

It bugs me that even after the book and movie, He's Just Not That Into You, women are still looking for the answer they want to hear. Not to say that I agree completely with the book's message, which was one simple thing-- i.e., the title. (The movie was different in that it told a story.) Not ALL men stop calling because they're not into a girl. However, the message should work well enough to help women take charge of their lives and not be enslaved by passing emotions. (Working on my second book to address such things. It's called Heeling Your Inner Bitch.)

If you take the time to think about the big picture-- i.e., life as a whole and the possibility of sharing it with a lifelong companion and possibly procreating-- finding the right match is important. Why would anyone spend more time with a date if he or she knew the date wasn't the right one? For friendship? Sure, why not. But not a good idea if it's not mutual or if sexual tension complicates that friendship. Some people need to learn to walk away from such relationships and move on.

Geez, I hate that I spent all the time responding. Well, I hope it helps at least.