Finding dating advice for men

In searching for the best keywords for my website, I kept coming across David DeAngelo's sites. It seems almost as if he has monopolized dating advice for men. But really, he hasn't. He has made a name for himself (which isn't his real name, by the way, as most pickup artists get AKAs), and I don't discount his advice. His advice does work for some women. But I don't think it works for most women.

Solid dating advice for men

I always believed that we should learn from history. But as history has its mistakes, we must ask ourselves critically: What are our examples? Who can we go to for advice? Where do we seek our models? Without criticism, we can become brainwashed to the "flavor of the month" or the idea of the day. As time goes by, what works for some people is proven not to work for others.

As a human being, you are unique. There is no one out there like you today, never has been in the past, nor will there ever be someone exactly like you. Therefore, there is no one method or technique for meeting women that works for all people to find the joy of lasting romance that people generally seek. Your "technique" must be your own. I'm not saying "just be yourself." I never thought being a bumbling idiot was a good idea if that's what I was at a given moment. However, it is important to know yourself better. Believe it or not, chances are you don't know yourself as well as you should. If that statement makes your pride get defensive, why?

The better you know yourself, the less defensive you feel. Really. Ask the wisest person you can find. The Dalai Lama said,

"Self-discipline, although difficult, and not always easy while combating negative emotions, should be a defensive measure. At least we will be able to prevent the advent of negative conduct dominated by negative emotion. That is 'shila', or moral ethics. Once we develop this by familiarizing ourselves with it, along with mindfulness and conscientiousness, eventually that pattern and way of life will become a part of our own life."

Hey, I think DeAngelo's "cocky-funny" pickup technique is fun. But I would not be inclined to get into anything serious with anyone who uses it to "get to know" me. There is better advice out there. Click the link.